I have, in all my travels around the world, always prided myself on the ability that the people of our country have to talk about racial matters and issues. Those of you you have had similar international experience will agree that this is generally something that is not discussed in polite company in most countries.
At work we have a culture of very open discussion, and over lunch we often handle matters that can shock outsiders who are visiting, Race and religion are two favourite topics, and I am continually surprised at how the discussions reveal how little we understand about our fellow South Africans, their culture, understandings and viewpoints.
For example, one of our Tsonga colleagues, admitted that when growing up he had always thought that when white people smiled at him when they walked past him, that this was them being condescending and even laughing at him. It was only years later at varsity when he saw them doing it to each other that he realised it was "just a crazy white thing". But imagine he never had that opportunity, and every time a white person walked past and grinned at him he took offence, how would that change his perception of white people over time?
Likewise, during the recent #feesmustfall campaign, a discussion of how everyone's studies had been funded showed that everyone in the room, white and black, had been required to pay for their own studies by working, and at best been lucky to get bursary funding in their third or final years as their parents had not been in a position to fund their studies. No freebies or parental handouts for anyone!
Also understanding the expectations that the family have of a black graduate in South Africa was an eye opener for the white staff, most of whom had only been expected to assist their families after they were financially established if at all.
Taking this to a bigger picture, if we are ever to move forward as a nation, with one common goal that we all can buy into, we first need to learn more about each other. It doesn't mean we will all agree on everything, but if we take the time to understand other people's view it makes agreeing to disagree a lot easier. It also means when we disagree on one point we have enough common ground to find a way to deal with the issue rather than throw up our hands in despair and walk away.
We have all of us, Black, White, Coloured and Asian, grown up with myths about the "other" South Africans, and unless we engage with those self same other South Africans to discuss what we understand, we have only those myths to work from, with all the misunderstandings they will cause.
If, as Scouts, we are to be Messengers of Peace in our communities, we have a responsibility to learn and encourage other people to reach outside of their comfort zone and learn about our fellow citizens. It's tough and its uncomfortable at times, but the value of the fruits will speak for itself.
And in achieving this we have an advantage in that, as a youth based organisation,we can learn from the children who engage without seeing race, or the other petty divisions we use to artificially carve up humanity.